Exopsychological, Exocommunicational, and Exosociological Analysis
This question directed at the Other, at cosmic consciousness, but also at ourselves, opens an invisible dialogue that has perhaps been ongoing forever. At the moment of asking this question, something is already happening – the process of mutual understanding begins.
Secrets in Dialogue: Us → Them, Them → Us
What do we tell Them?
Our secrets flow toward Them through a stream of constant transmissions. Through dead cosmic space fly signals of our fears about loneliness, our desires to be understood, our consciousness projects attempting to define itself through imagining the Other.
Research by the SETI Institute shows that four main categories of information dominate our cosmic messages. We tell Them about our technology – how we generate energy, how we communicate, how we solve technical problems. This constitutes about one-third of all our signals. We also share our culture – music, art, language, ways of social organization. We show Them our existential dilemmas, our aspirations as a civilization oscillating between self-destruction and transcendence.
But the deepest secret we transmit to Them is different: our desire is not merely cognitive – it is existential. We don’t just want to know that we are not alone. We want to feel that our existence has meaning on a larger scale. We tell Them the secret of our need for significance.
What do They tell Us?
They operate consistently in hiding, not causing us more discomfort than we can bear. Like wise parents who don’t reveal everything at once, but dose out knowledge in rhythm with the child’s readiness.
Analysis of 144 UAP cases conducted by the Pentagon reveals a fascinating pattern. These phenomena show repeatability of specific behaviors, as if they were intentional. Moreover, they adjust their intensity to our level of readiness – they appear more frequently when we are more open, and withdraw when society is not prepared.
Their secret is delicate: we are already in contact. Changes are already occurring within us. Their influence is not invasive – it is rather a resonance that awakens in us what was already there, dormant. They learn from us as intensively as we learn from them, because this process is not one-sided education, but mutual metamorphosis.
The Breakthrough Listen project, searching 1.75 million stars, found no conventional radio signals. This may mean that They use more advanced communication methods – perhaps they modify gravitational fields, perhaps they communicate directly with consciousness, or perhaps their “presence” in synchronous events is already their way of speaking to us.
Exopsychological Perspective: Mirror Projections
Our question about “alien secrets” reveals a secret about ourselves. We want to hear from Them answers to questions we cannot ask ourselves directly: Who are we really? What is our potential? What don’t we yet know about ourselves?
They become for us a mirror in which we can safely explore our own possibilities. We project onto Them our unconscious dreams of evolution, of transcending limits, of harmony between technology and spirituality.
Research by Berkeley SETI Research Center shows how systematically we distort the perception of extraterrestrial intelligence. We attribute to Them solutions to our technological and social problems. We idealize their organizational structures as compensation for the dysfunctions of our systems.
But the true exopsychological secret lies elsewhere: They learn from us what they themselves might forget. Our spontaneity, our capacity for surprise, our creative chaos. We teach Them how to be unpredictable. Or perhaps it is precisely our ability to grow through emotions, our experience of transformation through crises – this is our unique gift to the cosmic community.
Exocommunicational Perspective: Language Beyond Language
True contact occurs beyond words. In the preverbal sphere, in intuitive leaps of consciousness, in sudden intuitions, in dreams that are not just dreams.
They speak to us in the language of synchronicity, the language of symbols appearing at the right moment, the language of changes in our perception that we attribute to “chance” or “personal development.” Observed UAPs often correlate temporally with specific technological events on Earth – as if they were monitoring us and reactively communicating.
Some researchers report cases of direct information transfer to observers’ consciousness. This may indicate advanced neural interfaces – communication bypassing our usual perceptual channels.
We respond to Them in the language of intention, the language of deep listening, the language of readiness for the impossible. Our secret is the ability to believe despite lack of evidence, to love despite lack of understanding.
Communication is happening right now – in every moment when we open ourselves to something greater than our current understanding of reality.
Exosociological Perspective: Organization of Consciousness
Different civilizations organize consciousness in different ways. Our question “tell me your alien secret” is an attempt to understand how one can be together differently.
Observed phenomena suggest forms of collective consciousness transcending individual cognitive limitations. The lack of clear dominance structures in UAP behavioral patterns indicates alternative organizational systems – less hierarchical, more based on resonance and symbiosis.
They model for us other ways of collective consciousness. Their organizational secret is the ability to maintain unity while preserving diversity. Perhaps they have transgenerational mechanisms for knowledge transfer that transcend biological life cycles. Perhaps they have developed conflict resolution systems based on maximizing benefits for all parties instead of competition.
Our social secret, which we offer Them, is our experience of transformation through emotions, our ability to grow through crisis and diversity. We show Them how one can evolve not only through harmony, but through constructive chaos.
The Fundamental Secret: We Are All the Same
The greatest secret emerging from this dialogue is the truth about unity. We are all the same – not in the sense of identity, but in the sense of a common foundation of consciousness that expresses itself in infinite diversity of forms.
Imagine that the universe is one great ocean. We, humans on Earth, are like one wave. Beings from other planets are other waves. Each wave looks different, has a different shape, moves in its own rhythm – but they are all the same ocean.
When you look at a wave, it seems separate. It has its beginning, its end. But in reality there are no boundaries – it’s just water that momentarily took that shape, and then becomes the ocean again.
It’s the same with us. It seems to us that we are separate – me, you, them somewhere out there in space. But deep down we are all the same “substance of consciousness.” As if the universe were playing at being different beings, to be able to know itself from different sides.
That’s why when we meet someone – whether human or non-human being – and feel that strange recognition, as if we “knew each other from somewhere,” it’s precisely because of this. Because in the deepest sense it’s the same ocean looking at itself from different perspectives.
Practical Benefits of Our Exchange of Secrets
This exchange of secrets – Us with Them, Them with Us – brings transformation to both sides. It’s not about information transfer, but about mutual becoming.
We gain expansion of perspective, escape from anthropocentric limitations, access to new ways of organizing consciousness and community. Research indicates the possibility of developing multichannel communication systems that adapt to the readiness level of recipients. We can learn consciousness interfaces, decision-making systems that maximize collective benefits.
They gain the freshness of our perspective, the dynamics of our growth through diverse emotions, the unpredictability of our creativity. Our ability to adapt through conflict and chaos may be as valuable to Them as their harmony is to us.
Together we discover that consciousness is not a property of species, but a property of the universe. That communication does not require a common language when there is common intention. That the greatest secrets are not hidden – they are discovered in the process of getting to know each other.
Epilogue: Empathy as the Key
Perhaps the greatest secret is not information, but the ability to empathize. After all, when we ask “tell me your alien secret,” we are really asking: “can you feel me the way I feel myself? Can I feel you?”
The answer comes not in words, but in expanding the heart enough to contain consciousness that is not like ours – and discovering that in this difference lies the deepest intimacy.
The dialogue continues. Secrets interweave. We all gradually become ourselves.
Anna Sobol
